Thoughts From The Bookstore Aisles

I was in the bookstore today, looking through all kinds of books--on tantra, palm reading, persuasion, chakra-reading, etc. And I realized that there's a temptation to just learn it all. But the most successful seducers I've seen aren't generalists. They have a specialty: in terms of what they do and the women they're after.

When I was at the midway point in my game, I had a lot of routines, knew the principles, and had good success. But I wasn't where I wanted to be yet, so I tried to fine tune my persona, in addition to trying to figure out how to frame and present myself, and how to frame and present what I TELL women (or hint to them) within the first 10 minutes about what I want our relationship to be (eg, do I come on with strong seductive statements of intent, or do I make them work for me by telling her I'm putting her in my friends compartment).

So, if you want to go from good to great, here are two things you want to work on:

1. Who You Are: By this, I mean more than a charming, adventurous, funny guy. I mean: an expert in women's sexuality, an illusionist who can bend metal, a yoga expert, a masseuse, a hypnotist, a good dancer, a club promoter, a restaurant reviewer? What do you have to offer her? Why should she call you back?

2. Who You Want: Who are the women you want in your life?. Are they college girls? supermodels? bored housewives? And do you look, dress, act like the kind of guy who they would want to show off to their friends?

3. What You Have To Offer: In other words, why will see you again? Because they can go to great parties, learn how to female ejaculate, learn about chakras, show you off to their friends, hypno demos that give them greater awareness and focus, meet your cool friends, etc. Why?

So, to get to the next level, figure out what you want and then learn to specialize.