xero
07-10-2006, 03:28 PM
This is the field report for my second date with the girl I met at the bookstore on Friday (see Bookstore PU FR thread).
When I got her number (Friday) and asked her what she was doing this week, she said that she has Monday free. I said Id call her. So, I called her on Saturday to tell her how nice it was to have met her, and that we should go see a movie on Monday. I know a movie is not the best first date, but we're not near the city. See said it sounded like a good plan. Then I called her again yesterday to find out where she lives, but she said that shed meet me at the Mall.
So, tonight was the night. When I parked my car, she also just arrived and we met at the entrance. I gave her a big hug and stood a few steps back and looked her up and down and said "Not too bad". She smiled and said "You don't look too bad yourself". Then I said "6 out of ten" and gave her a big smile. She smiled and said "Just 6?". I just smiled. She then told me that she had locked her keys in the car and that her dad was bringing it to her then. So, we waited for him. After about 3 minutes he was there to give her the spare key. I waited at the entrance. When she came back, I smiled and held my arm for her to take (in a very formal fashion). She hooked her arm onto mine and we walked into the mall, both smiling. After about 20 meters I lowered my arm and our hands touched at the bottom. I didn't take her hand then.
We arrived at the cinema and I suggested we watch Over the Hedge , since I have already seen most of the other movies. I also thought that a comedy would me nice. We had an hour to kill, so I said that we should go drink something. There we just chatted about everything and nothing. We were both very comfortable.
In the cinema, when the movie started, I took her hand (for the first time) that rested on her lap. She just went along with it and it didnt feel wrong or weird. Throughout the movie we held hands, switching positions without any problems.
Afterwards we both went to the bathroom. After that, we held hands again while walking to the parking (It was 21:30). While going up the escalator, I said we should go for coffee. While walking there, we did a few dance-maneuvers (there was no one around), since she said that she liked dancing (shes a ballerina).
We ordered coffee and chatted about stuff. Eye-contact was very strong. After that we eventually walked to the parking. I walked her to her car, and gave her a nice hug. I wasnt going for the kiss, since I felt that I had already done enough to see her again anyway. She said that I should call her during the week.
There you have it. I didnt run any routines tonight; I was just playful and showed her what I was about.
Here is a summary of why I think it went well:
1. I didnt over-think anything beforehand.
2.I made physical contact when I met her at the entrance (big hug).
3. I qualified her by judging her looks.
4. I had my hand on the small of her back whenever it was appropriate.
5. I took the lead and took her hand to show her that I dont want to be friends.
6. Throughout the night, I was assertive. I determined the flow of everything; from the venues to the physical escalation.
Feedback would be appreciated.
xero
When I got her number (Friday) and asked her what she was doing this week, she said that she has Monday free. I said Id call her. So, I called her on Saturday to tell her how nice it was to have met her, and that we should go see a movie on Monday. I know a movie is not the best first date, but we're not near the city. See said it sounded like a good plan. Then I called her again yesterday to find out where she lives, but she said that shed meet me at the Mall.
So, tonight was the night. When I parked my car, she also just arrived and we met at the entrance. I gave her a big hug and stood a few steps back and looked her up and down and said "Not too bad". She smiled and said "You don't look too bad yourself". Then I said "6 out of ten" and gave her a big smile. She smiled and said "Just 6?". I just smiled. She then told me that she had locked her keys in the car and that her dad was bringing it to her then. So, we waited for him. After about 3 minutes he was there to give her the spare key. I waited at the entrance. When she came back, I smiled and held my arm for her to take (in a very formal fashion). She hooked her arm onto mine and we walked into the mall, both smiling. After about 20 meters I lowered my arm and our hands touched at the bottom. I didn't take her hand then.
We arrived at the cinema and I suggested we watch Over the Hedge , since I have already seen most of the other movies. I also thought that a comedy would me nice. We had an hour to kill, so I said that we should go drink something. There we just chatted about everything and nothing. We were both very comfortable.
In the cinema, when the movie started, I took her hand (for the first time) that rested on her lap. She just went along with it and it didnt feel wrong or weird. Throughout the movie we held hands, switching positions without any problems.
Afterwards we both went to the bathroom. After that, we held hands again while walking to the parking (It was 21:30). While going up the escalator, I said we should go for coffee. While walking there, we did a few dance-maneuvers (there was no one around), since she said that she liked dancing (shes a ballerina).
We ordered coffee and chatted about stuff. Eye-contact was very strong. After that we eventually walked to the parking. I walked her to her car, and gave her a nice hug. I wasnt going for the kiss, since I felt that I had already done enough to see her again anyway. She said that I should call her during the week.
There you have it. I didnt run any routines tonight; I was just playful and showed her what I was about.
Here is a summary of why I think it went well:
1. I didnt over-think anything beforehand.
2.I made physical contact when I met her at the entrance (big hug).
3. I qualified her by judging her looks.
4. I had my hand on the small of her back whenever it was appropriate.
5. I took the lead and took her hand to show her that I dont want to be friends.
6. Throughout the night, I was assertive. I determined the flow of everything; from the venues to the physical escalation.
Feedback would be appreciated.
xero